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Would you attend your ex wife's funeral?
Under what circumstances would you attend or not attend an ex's funeral?
If you had children together?
Would/should you organize/bear the costs of the funeral or leave the details for your adult children?
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I would attend my ex wife's funeral. Regardless of the reasons that we had split, or how bitter the divorce was, or how strained things were after with other family members. I had loved her once and I would be able to be a big enough man to appear and pay my respects.
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I would.
There was once a time were love and life was shared, owe it to her to pay respect and thanks for those times and lessons learned, and owe it to myself to say goodbye properly. Especially if children are involved, then even more so for their sakes,
they would need me more than ever I would imagine.
and for her family, every person that takes the time to show up at a funeral helps them see that the person they loved was loved by others, that they are not alone in mourning, and that they can be happy in the knowledge that their daughter/sister/friend/ect touched so many lives in a positive way.
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Funeral
Why would you even have to ask the question?
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05-10-2013, 05:13 AM
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I'm sure I'd have better things to do.
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05-10-2013, 05:47 AM
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Weird question... Yes i would. She would have to do something pretty bad for one not to.
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05-10-2013, 05:57 AM
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Did your ex die?
Depends on the divorce, if it was messy and bitter, it might not be the best thing to attend. The divorce does not only effect the 2 involved, there could be many hurt feelings with other family members, friends, etc, and it could take away from the service and the person could become the centre of attention instead of the deceased. (Psssst, what the hell is he/she doing here?) It would be tough if children were involved, not to attend.
As for costs, I don't think so, that ship has long sailed away
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I would just to make sure she was really gone. 
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05-10-2013, 06:11 AM
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Haha love BBT's comment.
This is a complicated question that depends on the post marital relationship one has with their ex. If kids are involved then more variables are added for consideration. Philosophically it is not a yes or no question because both answers can apply depending on the circumstances nor is one answer more ethical over the other.
The only wrong decision would be one made in selfishness, bitterness or a lack of forgiveness when it was sought.
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Originally Posted by 1000yards
I would.
There was once a time were love and life was shared, owe it to her to pay respect and thanks for those times and lessons learned, and owe it to myself to say goodbye properly. Especially if children are involved, then even more so for their sakes,
they would need me more than ever I would imagine.
and for her family, every person that takes the time to show up at a funeral helps them see that the person they loved was loved by others, that they are not alone in mourning, and that they can be happy in the knowledge that their daughter/sister/friend/ect touched so many lives in a positive way.
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X2. Same here....
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I would.
There was once a time were love and life was shared, owe it to her to pay respect and thanks for those times and lessons learned, and owe it to myself to say goodbye properly. Especially if children are involved, then even more so for their sakes,
they would need me more than ever I would imagine.
and for her family, every person that takes the time to show up at a funeral helps them see that the person they loved was loved by others, that they are not alone in mourning, and that they can be happy in the knowledge that their daughter/sister/friend/ect touched so many lives in a positive way.
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Pretty deep but I agree fully....
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Under what circumstances would you attend or not attend an ex's funeral?
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not if i was the one responsible for needing a funeral in the first place!!
actually yes, out of respect for her family. great group of people, respectful, helpful and down to earth.
that and what BBT said!
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I would.
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I would.
There was once a time were love and life was shared, owe it to her to pay respect and thanks for those times and lessons learned, and owe it to myself to say goodbye properly. Especially if children are involved, then even more so for their sakes,
they would need me more than ever I would imagine.
and for her family, every person that takes the time to show up at a funeral helps them see that the person they loved was loved by others, that they are not alone in mourning, and that they can be happy in the knowledge that their daughter/sister/friend/ect touched so many lives in a positive way.
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Well said.
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I would.
There was once a time were love and life was shared, owe it to her to pay respect and thanks for those times and lessons learned, and owe it to myself to say goodbye properly. Especially if children are involved, then even more so for their sakes,
they would need me more than ever I would imagine.
and for her family, every person that takes the time to show up at a funeral helps them see that the person they loved was loved by others, that they are not alone in mourning, and that they can be happy in the knowledge that their daughter/sister/friend/ect touched so many lives in a positive way.
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I would attend my ex wife's funeral. Regardless of the reasons that we had split, or how bitter the divorce was, or how strained things were after with other family members. I had loved her once and I would be able to be a big enough man to appear and pay my respects.
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I would go also, not because I loved her once. That lousy beautch cased me nothing but grief after we split up. She had no reason to do so, I never missed a payment and they were always on time. I know she put me down in front of the kids, which never did to here. If I even got close to saying something about here when they were around I would change the subject very quickly. The reason I would go would to be absolutely sure she was gone and know that I was finally free of her. If asked at the funeral I would say it like it was as I am a bigger man than to pretend sorrow.
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I`m with Pincher on this one.My ex was horrible,screwed me to the wall financially,alienated my children from me,caused me many sad days.I would not pay one penny for costs,chuck her in the river for all I care.I might go up after to spit on her grave though.
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Tough question.I'm still married to my first wife - although we have threatened to do it, neither of us has killed the other yet! 
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A lot of husbands like that out there, Or wives. Some might bring a gun, just to be really sure. 
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Tough question.I'm still married to my first wife - although we have threatened to do it, neither of us has killed the other yet!
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I would only go for my daughters sake to support her . I can not stand my ex she is a bitter person a witch
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I would only to ensure she was dead.
However all kidding aside, I would for my children's sake, since they are still young. Once they are adults, no way would I go anywhere near my ex. She has been evil, and cruel, and despicable. Those are the nice things I can say about her.
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I would attend my ex wife's funeral. Regardless of the reasons that we had split, or how bitter the divorce was, or how strained things were after with other family members. I had loved her once and I would be able to be a big enough man to appear and pay my respects.
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that being said I would go to support my children as well,
as for expenses her darned husband can pay for it,
maybe I would stick around and be the last one there then sneak over and P on her grave 
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Tough question.I'm still married to my first wife - although we have threatened to do it, neither of us has killed the other yet!
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Originally Posted by omega50
Under what circumstances would you attend or not attend an ex's funeral?
If you had children together?
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Depends....... is it during hunting season ????
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I would attend... unless it was clear that I wouldn't be welcome.
Its just the right thing to do... you know someone... you shared time with that person.
Whatever happened in the past is in the past.
For those still bitter... it might just give you some closure....
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I would attend... unless it was clear that I wouldn't be welcome.
Its just the right thing to do... you know someone... you shared time with that person.
Whatever happened in the past is in the past.
For those still bitter... it might just give you some closure....
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Her dead in a hole in the ground is all the closure I need.
So I go to the funeral and I come away thinking "oh,I forgive her for cheating on me,taking everything I owned,turning my kids into heavily tattooed idiots,costing me years of damn near poverty and GIVING AWAY MY DOG!!!!!
Don`t think so pal.Just the simple fact of knowing she is dead and I`m still kicking is good enough for me.She ain`t dead yet but a man can still hope.
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Her dead in a hole in the ground is all the closure I need.
So I go to the funeral and I come away thinking "oh,I forgive her for cheating on me,taking everything I owned,turning my kids into heavily tattooed idiots,costing me years of damn near poverty and GIVING AWAY MY DOG!!!!!
Don`t think so pal.Just the simple fact of knowing she is dead and I`m still kicking is good enough for me.She ain`t dead yet but a man can still hope.
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Well I guess there are Ex's and then there are EX's...
Honestly... I don't have an ex but I would attend a funeral of anyone I knew unless I actually hated them.
A lot of ex's seem to get along alright.
But... not all of em obviously....
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I would consider whether my attendance would upset her family or our kids. I'd definitely ask our kids, might ask her family before just showing up.
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Well I guess there are Ex's and then there are EX's...
Honestly... I don't have an ex but I would attend a funeral of anyone I knew unless I actually hated them.
A lot of ex's seem to get along alright.
But... not all of em obviously....
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That`s right,you don`t have an ex.Lucky man.And some are O.K. but mine is a beast and so are many others,men included.There was no need for her to be that horrible but then some people are just azzholes.I`m finally free of her and I live for the day she dies.Hopefully of something painfull and lingering.Flesh eating disease come to mind.
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