women problems (what to do looking for help from experienced gentlemen)

[6tmile]

Originally Posted by bb356

I like OPRHA better !!! DO YOU ???

A bit, until she was busted for having 50 pounds of crack

[bb356]

Originally Posted by 6tmile

A bit, until she was busted for having 50 pounds of crack

LOL !!! But I think it was 75 !!!!

[bowness]

You are one of the reasons this forum degenerates. Once you have developed the maturity to say relevant information you should find your key pad.

[FishingMOM]

Originally Posted by 6tmile

How does this help. Its all one sided. Sit down with a divorced couple and listen to them talk about each other. Know thats entertainment!

As a woman I told him not to follow through with the marriage. His gut is already telling him this marriage wont be good for him.

I am not a divorcee.
Nor have I been married, by choice.

I can see his GF is trying to push for a change in him. This change isn't minor like changing from boxers to briefs. Or using colgate instead of crest.

This young man has hunted more years than he has been with her. By telling him his passions aren't good enough to continue on with, she is saying she doesn't respect him. She knew these things were important to him all these years. Yet she is demanding a change.
That tells me she doesn't love him unconditionally.

Why get married to someone who doesn't accept you and what you stand for?
Sure it will cost to cancel the hall and what not but that a lot cheaper than going through and finding himself in divorce court in no time.

JENNIFER

[Redfrog]

"Sit down with a divorced couple and listen to them talk about each other."


Yeah I'll get right after that.

I'd rather crap in my hands and rub it in my hair.

6TMile or Forty Creek? hmmmm There's a tough choice.

[6tmile]

Originally Posted by bb356

LOL !!! But I think it was 75 !!!!

Rum n coke burns when it comes out your nose. Thankz

[horsetrader]

She's pregnant !!!!!!!!!!!

[6tmile]

Originally Posted by Redfrog

"Sit down with a divorced couple and listen to them talk about each other."


Yeah I'll get right after that.

I'd rather crap in my hands and rub it in my hair.

6TMile or Forty Creek? hmmmm There's a tough choice.

That doesnt suprise me

[bb356]

Originally Posted by horsetrader

She's pregnant !!!!!!!!!!!

WWWHHHOOOO ???? I'm just dying for the lastest gossip !!!!!!

[FishingMOM]

Originally Posted by bb356

wwwhhhoooo ???? I'm just dying for the lastest gossip !!!!!!

mrs jts1

[eastcoast]

I believe brad paisley has already said enough about the subject although about fishing.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WwRrKaq0IyY

I am a different case I hunted for my whole life on the eastcoast but gave it up for almost 10 years til the bug bit me again last year, I have been with my wife for 6 years and married for 3 and she never said anything about it when I started again last year, like others have said I think she is setting you up or at least picking a fight to see what she can get away with,run far and run fast.

[lone wolf]

Lots of good advice from guys who have been there, done that, usually the hard way. With your current situation, this is as good as it is ever going to get. Once kids enter the picture you may as well kiss your guns & hunting goodbye. Listen to Redfrog & Huntingstuff. Cut your losses and run away while you still can.

[avb3]

The outdoors and hunting is part of who you are and it is important to you.

So is your GF.

Divorces happen when resentments start to build, and are not mitigated by the other person.

If you did not hunt, or put the occasional head up on the wall, you would resent that wouldn't you?

Be honest with yourself, and find out if she can be honest with you, about this change in attitude on her part. If what is important to you is something she resents, things won't work out.

If you back down, you will resent it, and again, it won't work out.

My gut says it's best to cut the strings, but I am not you. You need to have a heart to heart talk with her and both need to understand how important this issue is to the other. Then you can decide.

[Cattle Dog]

If she paints her face up with halloween paint, or plucks out half the eyebrows, or hangs fishing lures and christmas tree ornaments from her ears, or glues on plastic fingernails, then drop her right now, and get a good loyal dog instead.

[IR_mike]

Well I have actually been through lots, My last g/f became a stalker type even burned her parents house down to try and get me back,

You got to elaborate on this......and tell us of any similarities between your present g/f and the ex.

There could be a pattern developing.

If not your ex sounds like a good entertaining story anyways.

[BGSH]

just make it work man, if she cooks and clean then your in good hands.

[Badbrutus]

Just curious but how close is she to being finished the school you have been paying for. With her schooling done you may have served your purpose. I know that sounds cold but a buddy at work just went threw it. Same deal lived together while he paid for the school and paid all the bills. Last couple of months before school ended she started having a problem with his hobbies and past times aswell. She eventually packed up and left. The best part is that because they had lived together long enough he had to buy her out of the house that he had been paying for. Common law not much different than married. Be very carefull and take the advice you have been given. If you give in now you better get used to it for the rest of your days. I have been married for 2o years, my wife does not like guns or hunting, but helps me get my stuff ready when I go and accepts the fact that both are kids love to go as well.

IF THE LITTLE VOICE INSIDE YOUR HEAD SAYS BE AFRAID THEN FOR GODS SAKE LISTEN TO IT...

[rugatika]

walk away now. Shake her hand, tell her it's been a good run and wish her the best. Lots of good advice from Redfrog and Huntin. (except for that stuff about crapping in your hands and rubbing it in your hair). (note to self; remember that one).

This isn't even about hunting...it's about control. You give in on this and she has a whole book of things to change about you next.

When I was younger I had a boss who was like a father to me...he laid out to me in pretty plain terms what this girl I was shacked up with was doing (he met her once or twice) and how being a nice guy (changing my life for this girl) was not in my best interests. I didn't listen to him and I got burned alright...not too bad mind you...but enough to have learned a lesson. I'm gonna tell you what he told me, and if you're smarter than I was at that age...you'll listen. "Be your own man; and if she don't like it, there's the door."

You marry this philly and she will suck the life right out of you. Take the advice given here and use it.

[Private Ear]

My wife and I were in school at the same time when we were first together many years ago. Hunting got us through it while we were financially strapped. We always had meat in the freezer and she helped put it there because we needed it.

If your GF were serious about this relationship, it seems to me that she would support you supporting her!

You may be able to convince her that hunting is very important to you but why should you have to?

Short term pain..long term gain!

[catnthehat]

Originally Posted by winger7mm

Man did I ever not expect to get this many opinions so quick gives me lots to think about hahaha. Hunting is my life and no woman (nomatter the lay) will change me from my ways!!!!!!

Get out - NOW!!!
if you think things will change, yes, they will FOR THE WORSE.
Pack it up and get out.

You cna thank all of us later if and when ypu do meet someone that is more compatable for you.....
Cat

[huntinstuff]

Originally Posted by 6tmile

Why would you ask for advice on this topic on a hunting and outdoors forum. Its your decision not no one elses. Dont take advice from guys that have been through a couple of divorces, theres reasons why they are divorced. I know that there are two sides to every story, but think about it.

Not me.

[huntinstuff]

Originally Posted by FishingMOM

As a woman I told him not to follow through with the marriage. His gut is already telling him this marriage wont be good for him.

I am not a divorcee.
Nor have I been married, by choice.

I can see his GF is trying to push for a change in him. This change isn't minor like changing from boxers to briefs. Or using colgate instead of crest.

This young man has hunted more years than he has been with her. By telling him his passions aren't good enough to continue on with, she is saying she doesn't respect him. She knew these things were important to him all these years. Yet she is demanding a change.
That tells me she doesn't love him unconditionally.

Why get married to someone who doesn't accept you and what you stand for?
Sure it will cost to cancel the hall and what not but that a lot cheaper than
going through and finding himself in divorce court in no time.

JENNIFER

CLANG!
Thats the sound of Jen hitting the nail on the head
Thanks

Now, the op has the same advise from numerous people who are all in different circumstances. That should tell you something

[Redfrog]

Originally Posted by best guide shawn homeniuk

just make it work man, if she cooks and clean then your in good hands.

That's your Mom Girlfriends and Moms are different.

[horsetrader]

Originally Posted by Redfrog

That's your Mom Girlfriends and Moms are different.

LOL lets hope so anyway....................

[Double Shovel]

I just had a conversation with a guy yesterday and he was mentioning how he didn't have time to do his own thing the previous night becasue he was too busy watering "her" flowers while she was in the house. I said it would be a cold day in hell if that was me. Another guy there said to me that I must have a great relationship(sarcastically) with my wife if I think like that. I told them," Just because you get married, doesn't mean you become "her" employee. Grow a set of nuts".
I am one lucky guy, we respect each others passions and make sacrafices to make them happen for each other. Oh yeah, and sometimes we fight over whos deer head is going where in the showroom. We have been together 17yrs and I know if I had someone who tried to change me,it wouldn't have lasted that long.
Get out while you can, she doesn't respect you.

[huntinstuff]

One more thing

Choices. You actually dont get many. You cant pick your parents, relatives, siblings, etc

You can choose your friends and spouse.

Make those choices good ones.

[Great White Albino Moose]

By now you have read alot of peoples past experiance. Have you had any of your buddies gone through this yet? You could ask them if their allowed to talk to you. It is the biggest desision you will make. So you must be certain. If I had met my second wife first, well.... But I didn`t. From past experience it costs more then money for a divorce. Pride, self esteem, etc. If you think it will change or get better, Its not likely to.
Gave up the great outdoors once, never again. But if thats what you want to do. All the power to ya.

[doetracks]

Wow.. and I married a guy that hunted, yet now I can't get him to go. Too many aches and pains.

[huntinstuff]

Originally Posted by doetracks

Wow.. and I married a guy that hunted, yet now I can't get him to go. Too many aches and pains.

The real reason he wont go is that it is just too hard to say goodbye to you

[Ken07AOVette]

I think almost every point has been hit on here, the underlying factor is simple, you are either compatible or not. Do not ever think that things will get better with marriage, that doesnt work. One or both of you will make sacrifices or you need to find the door.