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Old 11-19-2014, 02:10 PM
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100% the guy would have to own the trust or part of the trust and she could go after that
No...you can have a beneficial interest in a trust and not an ownership interest.

From another viewpoint...anyone buying a recreational property in the US should buy under a trust relationship. That way upon death there is no triggering of inheritance laws.

What he said is perfectly plausible...whether there is any case law...I can not say.
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Old 11-19-2014, 03:42 PM
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Or you could just represent him for free.
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I could, but I'm a corporate lawyer and know almost nothing about family law.

So instead, I thought I'd give him one of the first legitimately helpful (and factually correct) pieces of advice on his thread.

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Old 11-19-2014, 07:54 PM
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As I am also going through this, I'll share what my experience has taught me. You can go through counselling and you might be able to salvage the marriage. No matter which way you go, put your kids interests before either parents. If you can't work it out...

#1 GET A LAWYER. Do not take any action that is contrary to their advice. I would talk to council before attempting to move back into the house. Keep a notebook for meetings and have all paperwork where it needs to be ahead of time.

#2 Close joint accounts/cards. The advice about putting money aside is wise; you'll be needing all you can get your hands on. Cancel your winter/spring/summer/fall holidays.

#3 Look at the last few years of bank transactions on joint accounts. Research dissipation of assets if you see any irregularities and highlight these for your lawyer. This can be a huge factor when it comes to division of assets.

#4 If you have any employee assistance programs at work, use it. Your kids might be having a harder time with this than you are. Never forget that they are stuck in the middle of the mess and are looking for answers too.

#5 If you haven't already, GET A LAWYER
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Old 11-19-2014, 09:03 PM
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Get a female lawyer!
They all play for keeps.
It's awsome watching two of them with 57 years experience between them go at it.

That alone is worth the price of admission
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Old 11-22-2014, 09:02 PM
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I'll throw out the same advice all of the other lawyers have said: Get a lawyer.

As for the debating on trusts. FL-17, item 10. Perhaps that provides all of the answer that people need on using a trust as suggested.
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Old 11-23-2014, 01:02 AM
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In case no one has mentioned it, GET A LAWYER!!! YESTERDAY! I guarantee you, she has.

My thoughts exactly^^

Very interesting and amusing thread .....
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Old 11-23-2014, 02:34 PM
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Has anyone said get a lawyer yet?
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Old 11-25-2014, 10:44 AM
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Came home today to get some stuff.

Found evidence (that i have kept, for legal purposes) She not only has a long going boyfriend, but also is randomly "pleasing" some other guy as well.

Felt hurt.
Felt ill.
Felt angry.
Phoned Lawyer
Advised to screw anything and everything you can out of her
Feel better.
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Old 11-25-2014, 11:00 AM
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Came home today to get some stuff.

Found evidence (that i have kept, for legal purposes) She not only has a long going boyfriend, but also is randomly "pleasing" some other guy as well.

Felt hurt.
Felt ill.
Felt angry.
Phoned Lawyer
Advised to screw anything and everything you can out of her
Feel better.
Fack. That really sucks. WTH is wrong with these people? No balls to break off the relationship... better to hurt the partner first. This makes me so mad to hear about this so often. Divorce business is alive and thriving.
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Old 11-25-2014, 11:05 AM
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Don't get me wrong it hurts like hell.

I left the UK to be with her here, all my family are back in the UK. Im essentially alone.

But I have to fight for myself now. Although I still love her, I don't want her. Now I have to do what is best for ME.
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Old 11-25-2014, 11:25 AM
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Chin up and carry on my friend. You're not the first person to get screwed and you won't be the last. If it's got tits or tires, sooner or later it's gonna let you down. Good luck, and hopefully everything works out for the best.
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Old 11-25-2014, 11:36 AM
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I was able to use the threat of Occupation Rent as a bargaining chip when my ex kept possession of the matrimonial home.
The house was paid for and when I left I had to incur the costs of a place to live.
In the mean time she moved in some friends into the home we jointly owned and was charging them rent without any benefit to me.
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Old 11-25-2014, 12:55 PM
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Brutal man!
A man who stands up for what is right is the best example a kid can have. Stand up for you and act with integrity... let the lawyer do the dirty work. Time in the woods might do you some good.
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Old 11-25-2014, 01:08 PM
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Sorry dude, that sucks hard.

Just because I don't think it's been said yet, an STD test probably isn't a bad idea either. Some of the no symptoms diseases can cause longer term issues... Just a thought.
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Old 11-25-2014, 01:26 PM
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Came home today to get some stuff.

Found evidence (that i have kept, for legal purposes) She not only has a long going boyfriend, but also is randomly "pleasing" some other guy as well.

Felt hurt.
Felt ill.
Felt angry.
Phoned Lawyer
Advised to screw anything and everything you can out of her
Feel better.
Keep positive and look after your interests. I feel your pain as my exe's boyfriend was having dinner at home with my kids 3 weeks after I left the house. He started parking his summer car in my garage about the same time. Makes you feel like crap but you will over come and move on. talk to people close to you and don't keep it pent up.

I stopped paying the mortgage and taxes on the house and she tried to take me to court over it. During JDR a Judge told her good luck as I was paying rent with no chance of earning any return from renting. If she insisted on going down that road the judge explained to her that I could apply for lost revenue if the house were rented out. That is only one of many nightmares I have endured with my divorce.

Just try to be civil no matter what and do not give her a reason to turn ugly.
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Old 11-25-2014, 01:36 PM
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Sounds like you're lucky.

You could have wasted your whole life with her.
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