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I really screwed up yesterday
As some of you may remember, I had planned on riding bulls again once my knees got fixed up. Hopefully to start next years summer season.
The movie "8 Seconds" was on yesterday, so I watched it with my daughter. She thought it was so cool that I used to do that, and she was excited to come watch me when I started again.
Then it happened. We got to the part where Lane dies in the arena, and she welled up with tears and told me I am not allowed to do it because she doesn't want me to get killed by a bull.
How do I say no to that? So now I am open to suggestions on a new hobby to pick up. Consider my spurs retired.
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06-11-2012, 09:15 AM
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06-11-2012, 09:16 AM
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Originally Posted by Shaggy
How do I say no to that? So now I am open to suggestions on a new hobby to pick up. Consider my spurs retired.
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id be more worried if you somehow DID find a way to say no to that.
Nice thread.
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06-11-2012, 09:18 AM
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06-11-2012, 09:25 AM
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Originally Posted by Shaggy
As some of you may remember, I had planned on riding bulls again once my knees got fixed up. Hopefully to start next years summer season.
The movie "8 Seconds" was on yesterday, so I watched it with my daughter. She thought it was so cool that I used to do that, and she was excited to come watch me when I started again.
Then it happened. We got to the part where Lane dies in the arena, and she welled up with tears and told me I am not allowed to do it because she doesn't want me to get killed by a bull.
How do I say no to that? So now I am open to suggestions on a new hobby to pick up. Consider my spurs retired.
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Pick up a rope, easier on the body
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06-11-2012, 09:25 AM
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Originally Posted by Shaggy
As some of you may remember, I had planned on riding bulls again once my knees got fixed up. Hopefully to start next years summer season.
The movie "8 Seconds" was on yesterday, so I watched it with my daughter. She thought it was so cool that I used to do that, and she was excited to come watch me when I started again.
Then it happened. We got to the part where Lane dies in the arena, and she welled up with tears and told me I am not allowed to do it because she doesn't want me to get killed by a bull.
How do I say no to that? So now I am open to suggestions on a new hobby to pick up. Consider my spurs retired.
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You can't say no Dad.
The days of thinking of yourself and the way you thought of personal glory are behind you now.
Maybe you can change to something a bit safer in rodeo but in the end...
The way forward is to revel in the love of that child and to make sure that the legacy you leave is one of being the best Dad in the world.
All the trophies and fanfare in the world won't add up to making sure she has a happy childhood as worry free as possible.
Take her fishing... teach her to play hockey... to garden and ride.
You and your family can always be proud of the past but you shouldn't dwell there when there is so much to offer you in the future and when you are so important to her and her future. 
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06-11-2012, 09:44 AM
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Despite what some guys think, riding bulls is something that should be taken DAMN seriously. If your not making a good living doing it your wasting your time as far as i'm concerned. Especially when you have a family too support.
I've seen the affects it can have, I have buddies that are partially paralized, brain damaged, crippled and beat up from head too toe. I also was mear inches away as a kid got killed in the arena, nothing we could have done but thats part of "the game" I think you made the right call.
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06-11-2012, 09:54 AM
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Originally Posted by pesky672
You can't say no Dad.
The days of thinking of yourself and the way you thought of personal glory are behind you now.
Maybe you can change to something a bit safer in rodeo but in the end...
The way forward is to revel in the love of that child and to make sure that the legacy you leave is one of being the best Dad in the world.
All the trophies and fanfare in the world won't add up to making sure she has a happy childhood as worry free as possible.
Take her fishing... teach her to play hockey... to garden and ride.
You and your family can always be proud of the past but you shouldn't dwell there when there is so much to offer you in the future and when you are so important to her and her future. |
^^^Bingo!!!^^^
I would go out on a limb and say that there are lots of guys finding themselves in your kinda situation these days, myself included. A blown out lumbar back finally slowed me down enough to have an epiphany. It kinda slams a person in the chest when you start to think about all those super wild things that we used to do and all the glorious conquests of our fearless and consequence free youth and how things for our families would be affected now if we were to get hurt and perish while we were doing something wild and crazy that we loved to do and are passionate about, but are inherently dangerous activites like bull riding or maybe skiing down that crazy steep and narrow mountain chute above a 50' cliff in avalanche country or bowhunting grizzlies from the ground etc. Thinking about the repercussions took the fun out of certain 'extreme' activities for me and replaced it with worry and guilt about the "what-if's"... Glory and stories last forever anyway man, but time with our kids is absolutely priceless especially these days. Thanks for the post! -SQK
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06-11-2012, 10:11 PM
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Originally Posted by Squeeker
^^^Bingo!!!^^^
I would go out on a limb and say that there are lots of guys finding themselves in your kinda situation these days, myself included. A blown out lumbar back finally slowed me down enough to have an epiphany. It kinda slams a person in the chest when you start to think about all those super wild things that we used to do and all the glorious conquests of our fearless and consequence free youth and how things for our families would be affected now if we were to get hurt and perish while we were doing something wild and crazy that we loved to do and are passionate about, but are inherently dangerous activites like bull riding or maybe skiing down that crazy steep and narrow mountain chute above a 50' cliff in avalanche country or bowhunting grizzlies from the ground etc. Thinking about the repercussions took the fun out of certain 'extreme' activities for me and replaced it with worry and guilt about the "what-if's"... Glory and stories last forever anyway man, but time with our kids is absolutely priceless especially these days. Thanks for the post! -SQK
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06-11-2012, 09:58 AM
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Originally Posted by pesky672
You can't say no Dad.
The days of thinking of yourself and the way you thought of personal glory are behind you now.
Maybe you can change to something a bit safer in rodeo but in the end...
The way forward is to revel in the love of that child and to make sure that the legacy you leave is one of being the best Dad in the world.
All the trophies and fanfare in the world won't add up to making sure she has a happy childhood as worry free as possible.
Take her fishing... teach her to play hockey... to garden and ride.
You and your family can always be proud of the past but you shouldn't dwell there when there is so much to offer you in the future and when you are so important to her and her future. |
That should be framed and hung on the wall. Well said.
Pesky, you old softie!
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06-11-2012, 10:32 PM
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Originally Posted by Ken07AOVette
That should be framed and hung on the wall. Well said.
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Shhhhh... we don't want that getting around.
Actually... it's just the voice of a wretch that wasn't always there and wishes now that he could have a redo.
I missed about half of my kids lives when they were growing up.
Not much choice.
Duty... the thing that makes you hide your bags and sneak out the back door so you don't have to face a crying child that is so sure that this time... Daddys not coming home.
Love of family.... the thing that makes you wish that you were a better man than you are.
I'm close with my kids and they've never held it against me...but that makes it somehow worse.
Of all the things I've experienced in the service this is the only thing I will always regret.
I know I'm not alone in this...lots of men in the same sort of situation.
I just hate to see a man rob himself and his kid by choice.
On the up side...I'm sliding into retirement and too busted up and worn out for overseas anymore so...I do get a second chance in the form of my grand daughter. This time... I'm not going to waste it.
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06-11-2012, 11:38 PM
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Old quiet horses
How about easy ranch work on a well-broke and mature quarter horse?
When I can afford a horse again, he's going to be a nice, cowy , mature QH gelding that I can cut and ride herd with in safety. I've had enough wrecks on three-year-olds, and that doesn't even come close to what you were doing.
The cowboy bug is tough to give up, but a safer modification might be okay. Just my two cents.
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06-11-2012, 09:59 AM
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Originally Posted by pesky672
You can't say no Dad.
The days of thinking of yourself and the way you thought of personal glory are behind you now.
Maybe you can change to something a bit safer in rodeo but in the end...
The way forward is to revel in the love of that child and to make sure that the legacy you leave is one of being the best Dad in the world.
All the trophies and fanfare in the world won't add up to making sure she has a happy childhood as worry free as possible.
Take her fishing... teach her to play hockey... to garden and ride.
You and your family can always be proud of the past but you shouldn't dwell there when there is so much to offer you in the future and when you are so important to her and her future. |
Well said, brought a tear to my eye, parenting is about sacrafice.
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06-11-2012, 10:09 AM
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Ya it's tough to let go. Rodeo was always just a hobby. I never went out to be world champ, but I loved it.
My daughter and I do so much together. She loves riding on my bike with me, she loves it that I coach her hockey team. I can't imagine what she would do without me.
I had thought about buying some gear and start playing goal like she does. But then I thought she needs to have something that is just "hers" and I sit back and support it.
Adrenalin is a tough habit to break.
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06-11-2012, 10:10 AM
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I'd personally not do it. Surely your daughter doing that must mean something. Even if she's misenformed, I gotta say that I think she'd grow up with a lot more respect for you and men in general...
Besides, then you get to choose what boys she brings home, lol
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06-11-2012, 10:13 AM
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No you did not screw up. Had you ignored her request, then yes, maybe you would have. You chose to limit your girls anxieties, and worries. Just being a Great Dad, that's All and nothing wrong with being that Dad either.
As for Adrenaline rushes, I am sure your daughter will give you more then enough of that once she starts to date!!!
BW
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06-11-2012, 10:30 AM
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You have the instincts of a good dad. Good for you. However, I have one question. I know little of rodeo. Was the movie realistic? Do guys get killed bull riding? In terms of death rate does it rate particularly high for sports? Is your little girl's concern realistic?
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