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09-17-2017, 10:14 PM
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A Little Bit Lost - You 2?
Just will give you the highlights. If you connect then give the same.
My story:
1. Teens - Growing up and as stupid as they come. Youngest of 4. Momma protected me.
2. 20's - Baseball didn't work out. College 4 years without degree. Mom started new company, I went along
3. 30's - Company rocking. Lived in New York City spending obscene amounts of money and living the large life, dating the worlds hottest chicks. Think Leonardo!
4. 40's - Real Estate crashed. Homes crashed. Lost everything. Became drunk, fat, and stupid but functioning for work. Took care of health issues with Mom all those years in my 40's. I didn't make much. Siblings considered Mom and me one unit so would not contribute to her. I paid for everything. Could not support two households. Would not abandon Mom.
5. Mom now with a recent another stroke. Now 80. She is in rehap care center. Building business up again. Can now support two homes, but will drain all funds to do so. Never want that insecurity as before when almost homeless. So, now trapped once again to not have my own life and continue being.......
6. What is 7?
I know there is no answer to this post. But, thank you for listening.
#AnonymousTherapy
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09-18-2017, 04:46 PM
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Location: Iron River
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Start by talking to someone like your doctor.
All the best.
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09-18-2017, 04:58 PM
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Get rid of one house
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09-18-2017, 05:04 PM
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This
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Originally Posted by wildbill
Get rid of one house
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works.
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09-18-2017, 05:32 PM
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You are a good son 
In reality,iIf your mom passes your siblings will probably step up to collect their inheritance 
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09-18-2017, 09:09 PM
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Been there, but different timeline/details.
7. Spend whatever time she has left with your mom. You won't regret it. If you can't take care of her, get her name on the waiting list for the appropriate level of assisted living before it becomes a big problem. These things take time.
8. Find healthy work/life balance. Get in shape, eat healthy. 8 hrs for work, 8 hrs for you, 8 hrs for sleep. Leave the ethanol in the bottle. Find your passion and enjoy it to the fullest. Hunting, fishing, rock climbing, cooking, whatever works for you.
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09-18-2017, 11:42 PM
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No easy answer but all the best to you in the future and Kodos for sticking by your Mom.
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09-19-2017, 05:41 AM
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Location: At the end of the Thirsty Beaver Trail, Pinsky lake, Alberta.
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Leach...mom passes and you'll find another host...
Feel sorry for parents that have loved thier children and get taken advantage of, love is truly blind...
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09-19-2017, 05:48 AM
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Location: Elk Valley BC
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Perhaps you should read the " birth order book" ..don' t recall the author but it is very insightful.
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09-19-2017, 07:43 AM
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Location: Calgary, AB
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First of all, I applaud you for taking care of your Mom. I was in the same situation and was the sole caregiver for my Mom. She passed away 4yrs ago. I do not regret my decision one bit.
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