Stood up by partner

[ShawnM]

So yesterday I was supposed to go out hunting some ruffies with a friend. I left work a couple hours early to make the drive, had a bag all packed with my field gear, ducked a few meetings etc. Generally just went a little out of my way to meet up.

Well about 20 minutes after I'd already started the drive out I get a phone call and before I even started to pull over (that's my story officer) I just knew who it was and why. Sure enough it was this person saying blah blah lame excuse blah blah.

Second day in a row this person has blown me off and it's the last... They are off my Christmas card list. Hey s**t happens I know, but don't agree to plans if you aren't going to be able to see them through. No one likes hanging out with a flake...

[cody c]

Ya I get tired of it too, 3 strikes in a row and you dont get invited anymore.

Lifes too short to wait for those people. Next!

[pesky672]

I hate that.

I don't mind it once or twice...some guys sleep in etc once in a while but if you can't be relied upon for something as simple as showing up...how do I know you will be there if I need you in the bush?

I tried hunting with a guy like this once and he even relocated in his own vehicle without telling me. I went looking for him...couldn't find his truck... called and was told..."oh yeah...well I didn't see anything so decided to go to to such and such a place several miles away."

Had another guy that would wander and turn off his radio or cell except for when he wanted to talk to me because he needed help or something.
Fat lot of good that does me if I run into trouble... jerk.

Some guys seem to think that partnership means that the other guy is their lacky and they don't need to reciprocate common courtesy.

[dcutter]

This is the big reason I do it all on my own. When I was younger and didn't have all the gear I have now, I found I was forever calling to get a guy out of bed, or waiting at the truck stop with a cold cup of coffee, watching the sun break the horizon and waiting for a buddy to show.

Now I make the offer - "I will be at the Tim's at 0500 hrs. If you want to tag along, I'm leaving there at 0515 hrs." I don't wait, and I don't tell where we are going until they arrive. Cold-hearted I know, but that's the way it is.

[Redfrog]

It can be frustrating. Stuff happens to all of us and I understand that, but a guy who sleeps in, or his alarm doesn't work, doesn't hunt or fish with me.I've never had a alarm clock not work. I've had the power go out and I still wake up. I've gotten jobs because I've let the employer know I have a working alarm clock.

BUT, if you get a good partner it is like gold.

I hunted a lot for 30 years with a buddy who would go through Hell on Sunday with me and never blink. Not many of those around.

[wwbirds]

Similar experience with many asking about the opener here yesterday so I had a rough body count to make sure we had enough to cover the sloughs but not too many.
2 out of 7 showed, despite confirming their invitation under a week ago. No show, no calls, nothing.
Slate is clean for next year, sometimes you just have to start over when people start taking you for granted.

[timsesink]

Agreed, I mainly go alone now due to the hassle. Still trying to find a good hunting partner.

[Ken07AOVette]

There is not a lot more annoying than that one inconsiderate jackwagon that does it all the time, you wait all evening/day/weekend, do nothing with the family and they can not be bothered to even call.

That right there folks is a deal ender.

1 chance anymore, there are not many people that I know of that do not have access to a phone.

[ShawnM]

Yeah, people like this make it hard to trust new partners. I've known the person for a little over a year but this was the first time we tried to get out and fill a bag... My "gold" hunting partner died a few years back and haven't met anyone that seems capable of filling the void.

[xring_assassin]

Guess I'm lucky - I either phone my Dad, or I wake up my wife or any of our three boys if I want a hunting partner for the day. My problem is finding ONE and not FOUR on most days. Four is just too many people....lots of fun but not much success

Then there are people like my cousin who dragged me up sheep hunting when I was pretty sure I couldn't do it due to physical limitations. Not only get up and ready to drag me along, but encourage me to "keep trudging along - we're slow but we ARE getting there!" the whole day long too.

I have offered to take guys hunting the odd time - they showed up. Not many followed the ethics standards my Dad set down while he taught me how to hunt - so they never got invited again :P

[antler hunter]

its just so hard to find good hunting partners these days

[DarkAisling]

Originally Posted by dcutter

Cold-hearted I know, but that's the way it is.

Nope, that doesn't make you cold-hearted.

But, what happens at 0500 when your buddy phones you and tells you that he's still 20 minutes out. Do you wait until he gets there, or leave at 0515 as originally planned?

Your answer to that question could make you cold-hearted.

[rhuntley12]

Ditch em and find some new ones

[ShawnM]

Originally Posted by rhuntley12

Ditch em and find some new ones

I think that's a given... I hate chasing people around.

[whitetailnut]

For me it hasn't been the showing up that was a problem, it was the showing up and and not paying your way. Those type of individuals have been punted!

[huntin]

i like huntin with the wife she'll do anything go any time and she even packs my lunch.

[alodar]

Originally Posted by huntin

i like huntin with the wife she'll do anything go any time and she even packs my lunch.

Now theres a partner..

[yahaelk]

i have been lucky enough to hunt with a guy that knows more than me for the last 2 years

the biggest problem is he just sold his house and is moving in a month !@#$%^%&!!ole

don't know if i'll ever find a guy to replace him but i'm hopefull

[Twisted Canuck]

Gotta say, my hunting buddy is the best. He was my son's hockey coach 5 yrs ago, and we said we'd hunt together, never quite managed for four years, bump into each other at the rink, 'gotta get out together'....we did last year finally and clicked, had a great time together, got a 'twofer' on mulie does to make sausage...... I got him into bow hunting this year, and we have been out at least a 15 times already, we don't muck each other about, take turns buying coffee, a great partnership. He got a nice mulie buck last weekend, we spent this whole week trying to put an arrow in a great big bull moose, almost got him in the fog this morning but I missed. Don't ask, it still burns....

Anyway, tonight, he stops by, and gives me two large framed pictures that he took when we were out the other morning, watching the sun rise in the fog over the Wapiti river. A really awesome moment we shared, and for him to bring me framed pics? We'll hunt together anytime, anywhere, and enjoy each other's company with full trust. I wish you all had a hunting partner like that.

[dcutter]

Originally Posted by DarkAisling

Nope, that doesn't make you cold-hearted.

But, what happens at 0500 when your buddy phones you and tells you that he's still 20 minutes out. Do you wait until he gets there, or leave at 0515 as originally planned?

Your answer to that question could make you cold-hearted.

LOL

OK, honest answer? A courtesy call buys you an extra 10 minutes...but they are DEFINITELY buying me a second breakfast to eat in the truck on the way there

[tullfan]

You know, I have people begging me to thin out their cooyotes. I have property where coyotes havn't even been shot at. I always go alone cause you just can't count on anybody. I know it's just coyotes this year, but same people have deer that don't get hunted at all either. I figure if I can show respect and be courteous, i just may get a crack at them deer next season.sometimes hunting solo sucks and you wish you had a good partner, then you remember all the headaches.

Tullfan

[Element]

I am very blessed with the greatest hunting partner. She is always ready to go! She doesn't complain about the weather. She never has lame excuses ever! She never sleeps in!

Her name is Stella and she's a golden retriever. Get a dog! Best hunting partner you can have.

[jungleboy]

Lol My hunting partner is pretty darn good I must say , but it took some effort to get to this point . The first 3 or 4 seasons I went to his house every weekend during hunting season and dragged his butt outa bed more times than I care to remember. We've been hunting together for 20yrs now, and it's a rare occasion that he's not ready to go when I get there . Sometimes pretty hung over ,but always good to go.

[gitrdun]

My go-to hunting partner list is VERY VERY short, and there's a good reason.

[Eddy62]

Originally Posted by whitetailnut

For me it hasn't been the showing up that was a problem, it was the showing up and and not paying your way. Those type of individuals have been punted!

hear you there took a buddy from work this weekend.no gas money.no license i paid. no gear. no food. nothing could not believe it talks big game at work..hope no one else at work takes him out .dont want to tell anyone about it make him look bad at work but s..t if i dont someone else will haft to deal with it ...in a ****ty spot...

[gopher]

Hardly ever take anyone out anymore short short list. Stood up lots and the never reaching for the wallet and complaining. But the deal breaker is when I catch guys in my hunting spots with out me being there honestly how hard is it to find a spot for your self ? :

[nivek2506]

Too true about the find your own damn spot.

Took a guy out, taught him all he knows, he'd argue with me telling me how to hunt coyotes. I got 25 years exp, he had 3 trips.

Then I found out he was GPSing all the way out. Then asked me if I'd put in a good word with the landowner, as he's shooting knot holes out of fence posts with his rifle.

Umm no!!

[fear 666]

yeah l hate people like that too.

l have a friend who you can never count on, he is a great guy, but making plans is hit and miss. Example, last year he was going to come to our lake lot, (do some shooting or what ever). The only reason l went that weekend is because he said he would come as well. I call him in Friday and say "your coming right", he said "yeah l will leave in a few hours". this was at about 2PM friday. At about 7pm he isn't there so l called him and he says he will come tommorow instead, okay then. Saturday l call him at 1pm he said he is on his way to the store to get food and he will be leaving town, so l assume he will arrive at about 5pm at the latest ( that is adding extra time to account for his no sense of time attitude). Come 6pm he is still not there, so l call him and l say "where are you, he says "i'm just cleanng my garage, he didn't even leave yet, so l pretty much said fine it's to late now don't bother. He always does crap like that, so l never count on him, so pretty much leave him out of the plans now, he is invited, but l wont waite a second for him anymore.

[nivek2506]

I had another hunting buddy who would fall asleep as we scouted driving around.

So I had somebody sit behind him in the truck so I could get the other side scouted.

He got mad cause we were "conspiring" against him.

He would whine about going out, but once we got hunting he would say I needed this I'm to stressed.

So I started making plans without him, and he gets mad, saying but the hunting thing is our thing. I say no it's my thing, you just like to hang out every now and then.

So I get the GF into hunting, and he gets upset that she has to be along on "our" hunts, when it's actually me and her 90% of the time. The other 10% when he actually gets off his butt.

I like having somebody who gets the itch as bad as me. The GF is developing her game eye, and she can shoot. She just whines when I make her crawl across a section of land. LoL. But when we get 30 yards from deer forgives me.

[ShawnM]

Well I finally managed to hook up with this person last night for some huns and geese. Bagged a couple geese and a hun so naturally all is forgiven now lol.... I'm a sucker for abuse I guess.

The thing that ****es me off the most is that this person has access to HUGE amounts of land.