Calling all Lawyers or Legal types (Help)

gitrdone · #1 03-25-2012, 10:10 PM

Situation:

Realationship, over
Bought house together 50/50
Bought stuff for in house 50/50 (TV, recievers etc..)
She has moved out
We are selling the house
She shows up at the house at all hours, without a heads-up call
She is setting up realtor meetings at the house without informing me

Now I found out via a friend she is selling stuff online that we bought together, she has not informed me that she is doing this.

she is also saying that she will be stopping her half of the mortgage payments.

She doesn't like my dog........and I am worried for his safety.

Any help would be greatly appreciated

BeeGuy · #2 03-25-2012, 10:14 PM

****ty

Get a lawyer and document everything.

darius · #3 03-25-2012, 10:14 PM

as a start change the locks.

blackmamba · #4 03-25-2012, 10:17 PM

Same thing happened to me , except I took my dog with me every where I went .. All I can say is a get a lawyer , and document, document document everything , I lost my shorts in my battle ....

tullfan · #5 03-25-2012, 10:18 PM

Nothing of value to add. Sort of been there but was ammicable.It's crappy all thw way with no winners. Change the locks so you have some control over access, and lawyer up.
Sorry to hear about your situation.

Tillfan

blackmamba · #6 03-25-2012, 10:19 PM

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Originally Posted by darius

as a start change the locks.

legally you cant change the locks , till her name is off title !!

BGSH · #7 03-25-2012, 10:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by gitrdone

Situation:

Realationship, over
Bought house together 50/50
Bought stuff for in house 50/50 (TV, recievers etc..)
She has moved out
We are selling the house
She shows up at the house at all hours, without a heads-up call
She is setting up realtor meetings at the house without informing me

Now I found out via a friend she is selling stuff online that we bought together, she has not informed me that she is doing this.

she is also saying that she will be stopping her half of the mortgage payments.

She doesn't like my dog........and I am worried for his safety.

Any help would be greatly appreciated

Get a lawyer who represents you and they will take care of everything, write everything she is doing down, email your lawyer everything, keep bank accounts separate always unless you know 100% that they are with you for you and always for you, if she is stalking you and you have concerns for your dog this may be a serious case in regards to safety for your dog. You never know if someone is for you these days or your money, if it is your house and she moved in then you married ect.. make sure when she comes to get her stuff that your lawyer is present. it is better to be safe then sorry, goodluck. Oh ya if she is selling your stuff then she will have to pay you back every penny and more, dont say anything let your lawyer do the talking that is what they get paid for.

rwm1273 · #8 03-25-2012, 10:19 PM

Where you married? How long where you together?

Do you have enough to buy out her share? If so, buy her share out.

Is she selling your property? Or just items both of you purchased together?

You need to get a court order to stop her selling items.

If you are scared of her harming the dog, then get a restraining order.

darius · #9 03-25-2012, 10:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by blackmamba

legally you cant change the locks , till her name is off title !!

well legally she can 't sell your stuff either .

rwm1273 · #10 03-25-2012, 10:22 PM

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Originally Posted by blackmamba

legally you cant change the locks , till her name is off title !!

My ex changed the locks, and she never was on title.

rugatika · #11 03-25-2012, 10:25 PM

Keep the dog with you at all times! Can't stress this enough. When it comes to dogs they are looked at as property. She could take your dog, and basically it would become hers...posession is 9/10 the law. You could sue her in small claims court, but technically, even if you win, all she would have to do is FINANCIALLY compensate you for the loss of your dog. Do NOT ever let her have access to your dog. Everything else is just stuff. Get a lawyer, and get everything looked after as soon as possible...even if you have to sell the house at a loss. Terminate all ties with her ASAP.

Good luck.

PS: check out huntinstuff's sig line for advice in future romantic adventures.

twofifty · #12 03-25-2012, 10:26 PM

- Get a lawyer.
- Change the locks (possession is 9/10ths) as the house is now your place of residence -not hers- even though she still owns half of it. If the shoe were on the other foot, you would not be able to barge into her residence even though it was your house.
- Post notices next to doors but visible from outside so that if she hires a locksmith, the tradesman will know he would be open to damages if he opens up for her.
- Your bank acct and credit/debit cards ok?
- Notify bank that you are not responsible for anything she borrows on your credit. You may have to post same notices in local paper.

gitrdone · #13 03-25-2012, 10:29 PM

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Originally Posted by rwm1273

Where you married? How long where you together?

Do you have enough to buy out her share? If so, buy her share out.

Is she selling your property? Or just items both of you purchased together?

You need to get a court order to stop her selling items.

If you are scared of her harming the dog, then get a restraining order.

We were together 3 years, living together for 2 (Not married)

Don't want to buy her out, I would lose more in the long run I think.

We are selling the property but she is selling the stuff in it without talking about it with me.

I don't think she would hurt him, but I'm starting to get concerned concidering the change I've seen in her in the past little while.

Regarding the Changing of the locks, I would like to do that! but I don't want to do anything that is illegal and could come back to kick me in the you know whats.

Thanks everyone!

rugatika · #14 03-25-2012, 10:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by gitrdone

We were together 3 years, living together for 2 (Not married)

Don't want to buy her out, I would lose more in the long run I think.

We are selling the property but she is selling the stuff in it without talking about it with me.

I don't think she would hurt him, but I'm starting to get concerned concidering the change I've seen in her in the past little while.

Regarding the Changing of the locks, I would like to do that! but I don't want to do anything that is illegal and could come back to kick me in the you know whats.

Thanks everyone!

Dude...do NOT ever underestimate how diabolical a woman can turn against you. EVER! lol. Get a lawyer first thing tomorrow morning. (and take your dog with you). Men friends will shrug their shoulders and say sorry to hear that dude...her friends will be filling her in on all the ways she can screw you over.

Oh and move anything of yours that you value to a friends house or family that you can trust. (pictures, sentimental things, etc etc)

darius · #15 03-25-2012, 10:32 PM

even tho she owns 1/2 she left so you can change the locks .

just tell her you are doing it (reg letter) and tell her she can come in and get her crap out. all in the letter .

BeeGuy · #16 03-25-2012, 10:38 PM

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Originally Posted by rugatika

Dude...do NOT ever underestimate how diabolical a woman can turn against you. EVER! lol. Get a lawyer first thing tomorrow morning. (and take your dog with you). Men friends will shrug their shoulders and say sorry to hear that dude...her friends will be filling her in on all the ways she can screw you over.

Oh and move anything of yours that you value to a friends house or family that you can trust. (pictures, sentimental things, etc etc)

sad but true

rwm1273 · #17 03-25-2012, 10:40 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by gitrdone

We were together 3 years, living together for 2 (Not married)

Don't want to buy her out, I would lose more in the long run I think.

We are selling the property but she is selling the stuff in it without talking about it with me.

I don't think she would hurt him, but I'm starting to get concerned concidering the change I've seen in her in the past little while.

Regarding the Changing of the locks, I would like to do that! but I don't want to do anything that is illegal and could come back to kick me in the you know whats.

Thanks everyone!

She moved out, so you live there until it sells. You can change the locks. If you still have her coming to the house, get a restraining order on her, and if she comes to the house, you need to have her arrested. There is no room for chivalry anymore. If you don't stand up for your rights, you won't have any, and there will not be anything like a 50/50 split. It will be more like 110/-10, as you will lose everything, and end up paying for it.

Since you were not married, you follow Alberta laws. In Alberta there are few property rights if you were not married.

You can go to the court house and file an affidavit protecting your assets from her selling them, and also making you the resident of the house. However she is eligible for occupational rent for the time you live in the house.

bessiedog · #18 03-25-2012, 10:42 PM

Change the locks

Set out a big connibear as a welcome mat

Google up 'best divorce letter ever'

Customize and send

HunterDave · #19 03-25-2012, 10:48 PM

Get legal advice right away.......tomorrow morning! These things can escalate pretty quickly plus you don't want to break the law by changing locks, not allowing her access, etc if it isn't legal to do. A lawyer will know right away what you have to do and the first visit is usually a freebie.

gitrdone · #20 03-25-2012, 10:49 PM

I really do just want to get this over as fast as possible! and run!

So............can I change the locks? I think this will open up a whole can of dung

If I take my dog with me, he will be in my truck for 8hrs........

I will be contacting a lawyer tomorrow for sure!!!!!

And staying single for a LONG TIME!

Speckle55 · #21 03-25-2012, 10:53 PM

Just keep the dog with you at all times and keep a record of what was in the house and then move on with you life and consider yourself lucky you don't have any kids .. good luck with your next partner. don't fret over the small stuff the stress will kill you..and hey it was good for awhile .. i have lots of scars on my heart and check book but hey thats life..why waste your money on a lawyer in three years you have nothing really.. at least your not Paul Mccartney with Heather Mills..

Food for Thought
David

twofifty · #22 03-25-2012, 10:53 PM

The guys are right about how 99.99% of women behave in a separation.
It is like they flipped a switch.

Those lovely eyes that once gazed upon your magnificence will now look upon you with contempt and white hot rage. Many will do almost anything to reduce you to a shadow of your former self. For many it's a primordial need.

This is SOP and there's lawyers out there she can hire who will see you as the guy who will pay for this year's African safari, their airplane payments and a country club inititation fee. $10,000 of your after-tax money they will pay into charity: both as a tax write-off and to soothe their greedy souls.

Don't bank on yours being among the .01% who are happy with a fair split.

/rant

Bushrat · #23 03-25-2012, 10:54 PM

Take your guns out of the house. Women can get nasty, if she decided to tell the authorities you threatened her , whether true or not, they will give her the benefit of the doubt and they will have to take action, which means your guns will be seized.

rwm1273 · #24 03-25-2012, 10:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by gitrdone

I really do just want to get this over as fast as possible! and run!

So............can I change the locks? I think this will open up a whole can of dung

If I take my dog with me, he will be in my truck for 8hrs........

I will be contacting a lawyer tomorrow for sure!!!!!

And staying single for a LONG TIME!

Yes you can change the locks. She moved out. If she wants her items, she can make arrangements with you. You can't prevent her from having her stuff, but she can't come whenever she wants either.

twofifty · #25 03-25-2012, 10:57 PM

+1 on storing your guns at a friend's house. Do it tomorrow.
One false accusation and you are done-done-done for.

As to a lawyer, pay for protection and to reach a fair and reasonable settlement. Don't pay to fight your way out of the normal and usual obligations.

Ken07AOVette · #26 03-25-2012, 10:58 PM

She left the marital house. Make sure you tell the lawyer that, and change the locks immediately. Post notices that your estranged wife has left the home and therefore is barred from entering the property, cancel all credit cards, document everything, notify utilities, bank, etc. Act quickly. If you are going to leave he residence get someone you trust to house sit and call the RCMP if she breaks in. Move anything of value off site that belongs to you.

If you leave the house and she gets in you will not get her out if she does not want to leave, and you will be paying the mortgage for 2 houses.

twofifty · #27 03-25-2012, 11:01 PM

^ uh-huh. A favorite and devastating tactic. It simultaneously attacks your wallet, your credit rating, and your mind.

Big Daddy Badger · #28 03-25-2012, 11:02 PM

Get a lawyer and keep her away from that dog.
Guy I worked with had to rescue his at the last minute...she almost managed to have it put down!
If he hadn't gone home early....

Sounds like you need to get some stuff on paper before she bleeds you dry and comes looking for more.

Good luck.

gitrdone · #29 03-25-2012, 11:10 PM

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Originally Posted by twofifty

+1 on storing your guns at a friend's house. Do it tomorrow.
One false accusation and you are done-done-done for.

As to a lawyer, pay for protection and to reach a fair and reasonable settlement. Don't pay to fight your way out of the normal and usual obligations.

All my firearms will be out tomorrow, a good friend is letting me store them in his safe.

Is there any suggestions on "Good" Lawyers out there. I have found one with 29 years experience that seems good.

HunterDave · #30 03-25-2012, 11:13 PM

At this point any lawyer would do. If it gets ugly then you might want to find a different (better) one.